- The Order of Mutual Understanding: Experiences You Should Have When Young - 1
- This article analyzes the causes of misunderstandings between generations through a case study of failed communication between a celebrity in their 40s and a woman in her 20s. It points out that the illusion of "understanding," without considering differe
Continuing from Part 1...
Thoughts: If the realization that this is their first life takes precedence
Although this is research conducted in the US, what was confirmed in the process of finding tutors for children was the correlation with parental shame It means that because their identity as a parent is inextricably linked to their child's successes and failures, they fear that their child's poor academic performance is a sign of their failure to fulfill their role as a parent. Perhaps, because they remember moments of frustration and giving up on their desires, which they wanted or at least aspired to have in their lives, due to differences in financial means or education, they tried to indirectly convey the message they wanted to tell their former selves who had the opportunity as parents, seniors, or older adults. Perhaps they attempted to convey these messages through this particular young woman in her twenties.
The key point is that the sincerity, intention, and truthfulness of the speaker are not the core issue. Ultimately, the conversation is directed toward the life of the other person, not the speaker. Therefore, instead of evaluating and judging the other person, it would have been better if the speaker had shown some patience and understanding. I felt that such patience is the proper attitude of an adult in this day and age.
We all live our lives for the first time. It was their first time being in their twenties, their forties, and experiencing their role as a parent. So, I don't think there's a need for understanding or expecting understanding. Rather, it seems closer to a story about self-reflection and showing a more improved self to someone else.
Although I wrote a long explanation, I shared similar content directly in the relevant chatroom. I was very nervous, and my hands trembled. While confirming the actions(?) of a celebrity in their forties, around my age, I thought, "Have I ever genuinely and desperately wished to be close friends with this person? I want to end this conversation by calling them immediately," and on the other hand, I wondered if I was no different from them at the moment I expressed my willingness to participate in the conversation.
Thus, I frantically shared the message, "We need to reflect on ourselves first before we judge and evaluate others so easily," and sat there blankly for a while afterward. Then, a message arrived that allowed me to stop regretting and worrying about the situation.
What in my imperfect story was thankfully experienced by this person? And can I say that I am now writing this article with a clear conscience...? The whirlwind of thought began again.
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