- The Stages of Relationship: Single or DINK - Part 1
- This article explores the realistic concerns and lack of confidence regarding love and marriage discovered in a gathering of single people in their 30s and 40s, both unmarried and DINKs (dual-income, no kids). It offers intriguing insights for those seeki
Continuing from Part 1...
"What if Blackpink's Jennie said, 'Let's date, with marriage in mind, starting today,' two years from now? I'm a non-marriage advocate, so I couldn't even start. I'm sorry. Would you answer like that? What if actor Park Seo-joon came and said he wanted to have a daughter who looks like you and asked to date with marriage in mind? I'm a DINK, so I can't date. Could you answer like that?"
They all just laughed for a while at the questions, half-joking, half-serious.
I think that worrying about whether or not to get married or have children is a relative, situational question that only arises when you have someone you like and love in front of you, within the processes of the relationship. Of course, this way of thinking may not be the answer for everyone. However, their speechless reaction confirmed my belief that my view of marriage as a process of relationship isn't entirely wrong. Marriage can be a new beginning, but it cannot be a goal. Rather, the more realistic concern is how much and how we will adapt and live with this person who has lived in a different world.
Although it's an older drama, in the final scene of 'Relationship', Son Ye-jin delivers the following monologue as she watches her husband playing with their newly born child, after having separated due to the pain of a miscarriage and then reuniting. (Of course, I haven't experienced marriage myself, so I can't say any more than this. However, it seems to adequately express the difficulty and expectation of maintaining the unknown state of a relationship, even if it only remains a moment in time, so I'm sharing it.)
'We've come this far, having gone through times filled with pain and times of rare happiness. We fight sometimes, sometimes feel intense hatred, sometimes get bored, and often pity each other. When time passes and I look back, I will shamelessly say that I was happily drowsy. However, since this isn't the end of my time, I can't call our current state a happy ending.'
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